The Audubon Guide to North American Suicides

by Matthew Hobson

Walking one fall afternoon, my daughter and I find a dead bird on the roadside. Small and perfect, bright blue, with beak and eyes black as obsidian, it looks like it could have been alive only moments before we found it. Maybe it felt something inside itself winding down and decided to land, rather than fall from the sky. My daughter stoops to inspect it. She’s seven, a sensitive child, and already I’m rehearsing what I’ll say when she starts crying. “This particular bird,” I’ll tell her, “wasn’t very nice to the other birds. There’s no need to feel sad.” Out of nowhere, though, she asks how my father died. He died decades ago, when I was only slightly older than my daughter, and what few memories I have of him are dull and imperfect. That she’s asked at all is strange, since I seldom speak of him. But, it’s especially strange since lately I’ve been thinking of him more than usual because I recently passed the age when he committed suicide. I don’t know what that fact means, but it seems like it should mean something. I used to wonder if there was a suicide gene, if I was carrying that dark potential inside me like a time bomb hidden in the ductwork. So, maybe it means that if the bomb hasn’t detonated by now, it never will? I don’t know how to respond to my daughter’s question. I’d like to say my reluctance to tell her the truth is out of some deep parental desire to shield her from ugliness. But, frankly, it has as much to do with shielding myself from shame. Whenever someone asks how my father died, I usually say something like “car accident” or “cancer.” I’m thinking about telling my daughter a similar lie, but she’s already lost interest in the question. She stands up. Very gingerly, she touches her toe to the bird’s blue breast and applies gentle pressure, which expels the air trapped in the bird’s lungs. For a second or two, the bird is trilling, a shockingly beautiful song that, I imagine, is the sound a soul makes leaving the body.


This piece was originally published in the Baltimore Review.

Matthew Hobson’s fiction and creative nonfiction have won numerous awards and appeared in national and international literary journals. Currently, he is working on a collection of flash nonfiction about growing up—and now parenting—in the shadow of suicide. “The Audubon Guide to North American Suicides” is part of that collection.